Stop Telling Your Brain to Forget Names!
Have you ever gone to a party, event, or networking meeting where you were introduced to several people only to promptly forget their names? If so, you’re not alone, it happens to most people sometimes if not often!
You can say goodbye to that frustrating and often embarrassing experience once and for all! Use these simple memory techniques that will improve your memory while also helping your new relationships.
First things first. If you are one to say, “I can’t remember names,” understand that you are telling your brain not to remember names. Essentially, you are making a decision not to remember. You see, your brain decides what to pay attention to and what to toss into the subconscious realm based on the perceived importance or impact of a thing. So, by saying, “I can’t,” your brain turns its attention elsewhere.
Furthermore, using a person’s name tells that person you are interested in them. In business, this speeds up the “know, like, and trust” factor, and in other relationships it builds respect, kindness, and value. Chances are good that you will receive what you give, so others will likely try to remember and use your name, perpetuating the good vibes.
With a little practice, remembering names (and other things) will get easier. It’s a skill that can be built like any other skill.
The S.A.V.E. technique for remembering names
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Say the name as soon as you meet the person and mentally rehearse it throughout the event.
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Ask about the spelling, if it’s a nickname, or its origin, showing genuine interest. Now is a good time to give a memorable tidbit about your own name to help them remember.
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Visualize an image that can be associated with the name, the crazier the better. For example, “Lisa” could be pictured with the crooked smile of the famous Mona Lisa painting.
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End the event by using the name to say goodbye. If you’re not sure, it’s okay to ask them again. Better now than down the road.
That’s it! You will be amazed at what you can remember when you put your mind to it!
By the way, my name is Gen, short for Genevieve – as in the saint (you may even notice a halo hovering above). I was named after my grandmother, and my family calls me Gennie.
Happy networking!!